Look at me sitting there in my new chaise lounge feeling grateful for how it came into my life!

This morning I was feeling a bit disgruntled.  Yesterday I didn’t feel well and this morning I was doing my best be cheerful when my “true love” told me that we were spending too much money on electricity.  “We need to cut back.”  “What?  Not use my electric toothbrush?”

I needed a boost so I put on my coat, pulgged in my ear phone, dialed the number and went for a walk in the winter sunshine.  I began listening to a conference call with my two favorite mentors in the whole world, Marnie Pehrson and Leslie Householder, on the topic, “Heaven Wants to Help You Live Your Purpose.”

Just a block away I came across a chaise lounge chucked into a trash can.  As I passed it, I thought, “ I want a chaise lounge.  In fact, last fall when I threw away a flimsy one the grandchildren had enjoyed for several seasons, I thought of what I wanted.  It would be sturdy but comfortable and easy to adjust.  What is wrong with that one?  Dare I ask?”

I walked on for another block when it became too noisy to hear the call.  Someone was jack hammering cement.  I turned around.  On my way back, there was the lounge again.  I decided to check it out.  There were a couple stains on the pillow (I hadn’t even ordered a pillow.) Surely it wouldn’t be stealing if I just took it.  No, I rang the doorbell and asked.  Yes, she was happy for me to take it.  I lugged it home and set it up in my wintery back yard.  I sat down and looked out at the snow capped mountains,grateful for my new chaise lounge and how it had come to me.

I listened to Leslie and Marnie’s call the whole time.  I wonder how many of the laws of the universe had to work together for me to have my new chaise lounge, even before spring.  Surely the Law of Gestation was at work.  The Law of Rhythm brought the lounge to the lady who gave it up to me and now I hope she gets something better.   The Vacuum Law of Prosperity was put into motion when I threw the old one away and thought of what I wanted.  I put no restrictions on how it would come so the Universe took care of the rest. What do you think?  Were universal laws at work or was it just chance?  It made me laugh and reminded me that I am an opulent woman, rich in every way.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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“I hope to see you again soon.”

I have always enjoyed change. In fact, I tend to get bored with routine.  That is not always a good thing.  In this case, I am really excited to have a new view of my business and my life.

I have been moving in the direction of starting a new group session of my coaching course, Simple Self Coaching For Women.  I have been very focused and eager, but for some reason, I haven’t quite put it out there for people purchase.  I have felt like I have been sabotaging myself or that I was too afraid, but I kept working in that direction any way.  I even set the date to start on Sept. 7.  I knew that if I didn’t put it out there and do a FB and Twitter campaign, it wouldn’t happen.  It didn’t happen.  Let me tell you why.

On Sunday, my husband and I were asked to take an assignment to minister to about 300 college Freshmen on Brigham Young University campus.  For those who understand the terms, he will be a High Counselor and I will be a Relief Society Advisor.  We will each be training two leadership teams and standing by to support them as they lead their groups of several dozen freshmen each.  Our focus is to teach and inspire them to follow Christ and make good choices at this crucial time in their lives, so they will have happy marriages and families in the future.  It is a very big job and one we eagerly accepted.  We have a strong desire to follow Jesus and to do his work.  We love the youth and this will keep us young.

What does that have to do with you? Well, I am canceling my group coaching program before it begins.  My family and God come before business.  This changes how I use my time.  In order to fit it all in, I got to come up with a new business plan.  I have decided to do some personal coaching instead of group coaching.  I am very comfortable with it and can fit it in more easily than coaching a group.  I will be using my SSCFW program, only being very focused on just one client at a time.  I have enjoyed that experience and been successful with it in the past.  I will only take two clients for now.  Possibly more later.  Is this for you?

Go to the SSCFW website for a description of my coaching philosophy and program. Go to the Products page to consider my rates.  Call me at 801-225-5459 or 801-400-0109 for an appointment for a FREE half hour coaching experience.  If it is a fit for you, I would love the opportunity to coach you to coach yourself to be the woman you want to be.  If it isn’t a fit right now, we will part friends.  Do call and find out.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:
What would you like to chang in your life right now? Maybe you could reduce your stress, improve your self-care, forgive yourself or others.  Sit quietly for just five minutes and consider what you could do about it right now.  Look at it differently.  Choose one thing you will do right now to change that for the better.  Coach yourself to be your best self.  It feels so good! You can do it!  Let me know how it goes.

Thank you all for your support as I continue to be an opulent woman, rich in every way.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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“I hope to see you again soon.”

There is an over-arching principle that covers all of the laws of the universe and and their application. You could call it the Law of Light.  It is so simple, I hardly dare mention it for fear you won’t take it seriously.

The Law of Light is, “The more you increase the light, the less darkness there will be in any situation or circumstance.”  See, it is truly the most simple of all the laws and yet, perhaps the least acted upon.

Who wants to live in the dark? In order to get rid of the darkness in the room, turn on the light.  It’s that simple.

I heard a story about an old farm couple decided to let a light bulb salesman show his wares.  He turned on a dim lamp and they were astonished at how it radiated beyond the flicker of their kerosene lamp.  They bought one and were happy about the things they could do in the evening in greater comfort.  A few years later another salesman approached them, surprised with their dimly lit room.  With the flick of a switch his lamp illuminated the whole room.  They willingly invested in more light.

How many times do we struggle in the dark, believing, “That’s just the way it is.  I can’t do anything about it.” When in reality you could turn the knob and receive more and more light with each turn of the switch.

This is a lesson I have learned over and over again.  If only I had stuck with my first resolution to live a healthy life-style.  If only I had never neglected my children or gotten cross with my husband.  If only I had been better with my money.  If only I hadn’t allowed myself to get depressed lately over my inability to keep up with all of the demands on my life.

I almost gave up on my business all together, just last week. Fortunately, after suffering for days and talking trash to myself, I came to my senses and realized I was surrounding myself with darkness.  I decided to turn on the light.  It’s interesting how comfortable my gloom had become and how hopeless my situation felt at the time.

It takes a fair amount of courage to reach up to that switch and turn it on. It takes effort, focus and determination, too.  Depression is all too familiar to me.  I hate it and attract it at the same time.  For someone who is suseptable to depression, the slope can be pretty slippery when I get too close.  A little exhaustion, overwork, and self pity can bring on a big bout of depression.

So what did I do to turn on the light? Writing always helps.  I can see right there in black and white how skewed my thinking has become.  A few good nights rest and good nutrition always add light.  Writing my gratitude list is helpful.  Sharing my thoughts and feelings with someone who loves me is a wise choice.

I suppose the most important thing is to realize what I have allowed myself to do and to recognize there is an unending source of light available when I turn to that Source.  The Lord never fails to answer my prayers for more light when I am willing to receive it.  You see, in the end, it is up to me to flip the switch and God brings in the light.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip: Take stock of your ‘light barometer.’  Are you enjoying as much light as you want?  If not, what can you do to switch on more light in your life.  Choose one thing and do it every day for a week.  Check your ‘light barometer’ again.  Yes, it is up to Coach “YOU”.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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“I hope to see you again soon.”

My daisies were so beautiful this summer. Just two weeks ago they were beautiful and full of promise for a long and lovely summer.  The heat increased and the flowers are now spent.  They are droopy and brown and ugly.

What shall I do?  Do I deadhead or not? (For those who may not know, deadhead means to cut off the dead flower heads so the plant looks better and it may produce a few new blooms.)

It takes work to deadhead.  What difference will it make anyway? The dead flowers will just sit there and look forlorn for the rest of the summer.  Next spring they will come up and produce new splendid blooms.  Why bother?

I do it because there are at least six more weeks of nice warm weather and there is a good chance they will give me a few more blossoms.  The flower beds will look cared for and attractive.  It is worth it to deadhead the flowers.  Even though the work is tedious, those last few blossoms in the early fall are the reward for my work.

How many times do we do what we think is needed to complete a job?  We think we’re done.  And yet, with just a little more effort the rewards will be felt much longer and bring greater satisfaction and added rewards.

A little Self-Coaching just might help.

• The cupboard that is never quite clear before going to bed.
• The project at work that wasn’t done quite as well as it could have been.
• The relationship you know you could add a little zest to with a little effort.

What do you need to deadhead to improve the quality of your life?  A little effort can pay big dividends.  Go scrub your sink and see if it doesn’t make you smile in the morning.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:

Pick one thing to deadhead.  Do it and see how you feel.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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“I hope to see you again soon.”

Whether there are children in your home or not, the summer  season changes things in our lives. We are more apt to vacation.  We are out and about more, meeting and greeting people.  We are more apt to be spontaneous, more apt to party.

On the other hand, life can be more hectic. I remember looking forward to having my children home from school so we could do some things on purpose.  We would work together in the morning, getting the house in order, and then go play together.  We would have picnics and hike in the mountains.  We would have mini classes on manners and learning to keep our rooms and stuff in order.  The list goes on.

Then reality would hit.  It was hard to go to bed at a reasonable hour since the sun didn’t go down.  The children loved being with their friends, even playing night games at times.  Then it was hard to get up and keep that orderly home and predictable routine I dreamed of.

There were softball practices and games that interfered with our mini lessons and side trips.  Before long, I was happy to just keep everyone fed and relatively clean.  We had fun cheering for our ball players.  We did have one evening a week together for a picnic or a lesson.  There was the annual trip to Grandma’s house in another state.  We lived by the Law of Rhythm all summer until our school schedule predicted order once more.

The Law of Rhythm tells us that it is normal for life’s events to flow up and down. Once we accept that fact, it is easier to let go of expecting to control everything.  When we resist the truth of this law, we create pot holes where it is easy to get stuck in the down and spend a lot of energy just to get back out again.

Summer is a good time to relax and enjoy the gentle flow of events, knowing that what goes down will come up again.  Breathe deep, drink cold lemonade and laugh a lot.  Routine will be upon us soon enough.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:

Create a family motto to help you get through the “downs” and expect the next “up.”  “Our family sticks together in the ups and downs.  What can I do for you?”  “This doesn’t feel good.  There must be something wonderful ahead.”   Talk with your family, spouse or friend and see what you can do to lift one another’s spirits and look for more “ups.”  It’s fun!

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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“I hope to see you again soon.”

I am on vacation in Corolla, NC, on the Outer Banks of North Carolina.  My son and his wife invited me to join their family in a beautiful beach house for a few days.  I am having my dream vacation.

My daughter Becky and her two teen age sons and a friend came with me.  We woke at 5:00 a.m.  in order to watch the sun rise over the ocean.  It was spectacular.  Nothing can replicate that beautiful red ball emerging from the depths of the ocean at that early hour.  It was breathtaking.

We went back to the house and took a nap.  Can you believe that?  Well, I am on vacation, after all.  After a quick breakfast I joined them on the beach to play with darling Gracie, twenty months old, and watch the rest play in the surf.  It was a delightful morning and the weather was perfect.  Nothing could have been better–except, my dear husband was missing.  He is on a different assignment so we talk on the phone twice a day and that has to be enough for now.

It seems that no matter how we try to create our perfect day, there is often something missing. The question is, “What do we do about it?”  I could mope around and feel sorry for myself or I can take pictures and think of how Dale will enjoy my sharing them with him.  There is no perfection in this life, but there is a whole lot of love, joy and peace if we expect it and make every effort to create it. We really are in charge of our perceptions and our experiences.  I choose to believe I am having a perfect day with many more to follow.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:

What three things are needed for you to have your perfect day? Put them into place for you today.  Maybe you need someone to love, something important to do and peace of mind.   Carve out at least a few minutes in your day to have those things present today and then do it again tomorrow.  You will be surprised how close each day will become to perfection–your own definition of perfection.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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“I hope to see you again soon.”

I recently attended the funeral of my ninety year old uncle, Sharon Vermont Patten.   Two of his older sisters passed away earlier this year.  There is one sister left who says she is going next month.  That will be all of my mother’s family.  They are remarkable people.

The most touching tribute was not the one given by his neighbor, his hospice nurse, or his best friend.  It wasn’t the song his daughter sang or the song sung by his grandchildren and great grandchildren.  The most touching tribute was paid when his oldest grandson, dressed in his Marine Corps dress suit, saluted the flag draped casket, removed his hat and knelt on one knee to dedicate the grave.  That picture said more than all the rest put together.

Uncle Sharon’s mother died when he was nine years old. At seventeen he joined the Army and was stationed at Schoefield Barracks
when the Japanese Attacked Pearl Harbor.  He could see the smiling faces
of the pilots who dropped the bombs on his comrades.

It was fitting that his oldest grandson should stand at attention during the
21 gun salute and while Taps was played. It was fitting that he should kneel and ask the God of heaven and earth to protect this bit of ground against destructive forces of any kind.  It was fitting that he salute his Grandpa one more time before the draped flag was folded and placed in the lap of his daughter.  This boy in uniform had just come home from a tour in Afghanistan. His Grandpa did his duty nearly seventy years ago and he is doing his duty today.

We may not agree with what is going on in any of the wars around the globe.  These are difficult days for all the nations of the world.  One thing I know for sure; freedom is a sacred gift from God. If we are going to retain our freedom, we must take time to remember the price that has been and is being paid for it today.  The rituals at Uncle Sharon’s grave did that for me.  The members of the VFW, Veterans Of Foreign Wars, nearly all looked to be as old as the man in the grave and yet, they gave this same service at several gravesides that day.  Who will remind us when they are gone?

Self Coaching Tip:

The next time you see a soldier, thank them for what they are doing.  Do your part by keeping peace in your own heart and home.  That is where peace begins.  Remember, you are the coach!

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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“I hope to see you again soon.”

My hands were trimming bushes and laying drip tape in my garden this morning but my mind was somewhere else. I stuck the ear buds in my ears and clicked my ipod, thinking I was getting something else, but Sheldon Pickering’s magnificent piano album “Hope” is what I heard.  It was lovely background music for gardening, but that wasn’t all.  After a track of “Hope,” I heard John C. Maxwell teaching about leadership.

Evidently my ipod was in ’shuffle’ mode so I listened to Sheldon’s music and John’s leadership training back and forth for over an hour.  John is a prolific author and one of the most powerful and effective trainers of leaders worldwide.  I was privileged to hear him in person and then received a CD each month for six months.  A favorite book of his is called “Leadership Gold.”

Today he talked about giving a seminar called “Leadership 360,” leading those above, beside and below you in rank.  A student asked him if it is harder to lead people above, beside or below you.  He told him, “None of the above.”  He was surprised since that is what the seminar was about.  Finally he said that the one hardest to lead is the one inside you.  “If I could kick the one who is he hardest to lead I wouldn’t be able to sit down for a week.” Isn’t that the truth?  We all need a coach.

He made a commitment early in his career that he would never teach others something he isn’t living, or at least working hard at it.  He would invite guest speakers to teach subjects he believed in but wasn’t adequately living at the time.

I know there are times I am guilty of attempting to teach things I am not living very well.  Since I can’t kick myself, all I can say, is “Please forgive me.  I will do better in the future.”

By the way, listening to inspiring words mixed with inspiring music is a great way to learn.  Today I got more out of gardening than I expected.   I must have learned everything John said at a much deeper level because of Sheldon’s music.  You will know because you will see me being a more effective leader.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:

You are the leader in your own life and family. How are you doing?  Ask yourself if you are practicing what you are preaching.  There is always room for improvement.  Coach “YOU” is the only one who can see to it that you are being true to your word. What will you do about it today?

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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“I hope to see you again soon.”

Have you ever given a gift to someone who didn’t want it? I made a teddy bear for a child once.  He looked at it and said, “I don’t like it!”  I think it was the color.  Hmm, what’s a grandma to do?

As an adult child of loving parents, I was plagued with depression. I felt like I had a hole in my heart.  Then my parents died when I was thirty.  I was an infant in my adult progression.  I was in pain and I wanted to find someone to blame.  I blamed my parents.  I blamed my siblings.  I blamed my childhood.  I rummaged in the garbage for a lot of years until I found myself.  You could say, I learned to coach myself. I stood up and cleaned myself off.

I learned that I was the only one who could fill the hole in my heart. God would help me but I had to let go of the pain for him to take it.  I had to receive the love of my parents in order to see my life as perfect for my growth and experience to become who I am.  I had to let go of blaming my siblings in order for us to bond and enjoy life supporting one another.  I had to let go of childhood pain and look for the enjoyable times in order to think my life wasn’t a waste.  I had to let go of the painful past in order to receive God’s gift of healing.  It is the only way.

I have become someone who can bless the lives of others because I am not encumbered by perceptions of lack in myself or others.  I love you. You can receive it or not. You can coach yourself to change your perception at any time.  It is up to you.  Live in joy or sorrow.  What will it be?

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:

Sit down with Coach “YOU” and say, “It is time to receive all the love I want.  I choose JOY!” And mean it.  You will find the way to do that.  God intends it to be so.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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I’m going to be around for a long time and I hope you will, too.

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“I hope to see you again soon.”

I love good company and I love inspiring events. This time I was going to have both.  My cousin, who is a young chick just like I am, called to say “Get Motivated!  Business Seminar” was coming town.  There were big name presenters like Ziz Ziglar and John Walsh and even Sarah Palin.  It was cheap.  Did I want to go?  No brainer!  My husband was out of town.  I could use Marriott points to stay overnight first class and have a great time with cousin Kelly.  I’m in!  I made the reservations and even bought extra tickets to share; they were so cheap.  I knew some of my entrepreneurial friends would want to go.  That was  three weeks ago.

I called Kelly a few days ago to make sure she was still planning to go.  ”Yes, but barely–so much to do.”  If I was going, she was.  I was. After much advertising among family and friends, my daughter Becky was the only one who wanted an extra ticket.  Becky had double booked.  It is her son’s birthday.  No, she won’t be going.  Kelly called this morning to say she is sick—-and tonight was to be the night in the hotel!  What is a girl to do?  No husband away, free first class hotel room within walking distance of the event and I am the only healthy well-planned woman of the bunch.  Shall I go alone?

Yes, I do want to go somewhere alone. I called and made an appointment for a massage tonight.  I will sleep better and wake up so renewed and happy I will be able to garden, write another blog and do whatever else my heart desires.  That even sounds better than a motivational business seminar.

I called to cancel the hotel room and they said there were no reservations for me tonight. Somehow, someone was confused when I made the reservations.  The date they had was two days ago.  What do you know!  There was no room for me anyway.  How could I have created all that drama without even knowing it just so I could have a massage tonight? Don’t you wish you had tickets to the big event tomorrow?  Give me a call.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:

Make a list of six things you can do “instead of” when disappointments come up. Start with something as simple as “Sit down with my favorite drink and think something pleasant.” to “Get a massage.”  It’s always good to be prepared for the unexpected window of time when you can do exactly what you enjoy doing.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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I’m going to be around for a long time and I hope you will, too.

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“I hope to see you again soon.”