I have always enjoyed change. In fact, I tend to get bored with routine.  That is not always a good thing.  In this case, I am really excited to have a new view of my business and my life.

I have been moving in the direction of starting a new group session of my coaching course, Simple Self Coaching For Women.  I have been very focused and eager, but for some reason, I haven’t quite put it out there for people purchase.  I have felt like I have been sabotaging myself or that I was too afraid, but I kept working in that direction any way.  I even set the date to start on Sept. 7.  I knew that if I didn’t put it out there and do a FB and Twitter campaign, it wouldn’t happen.  It didn’t happen.  Let me tell you why.

On Sunday, my husband and I were asked to take an assignment to minister to about 300 college Freshmen on Brigham Young University campus.  For those who understand the terms, he will be a High Counselor and I will be a Relief Society Advisor.  We will each be training two leadership teams and standing by to support them as they lead their groups of several dozen freshmen each.  Our focus is to teach and inspire them to follow Christ and make good choices at this crucial time in their lives, so they will have happy marriages and families in the future.  It is a very big job and one we eagerly accepted.  We have a strong desire to follow Jesus and to do his work.  We love the youth and this will keep us young.

What does that have to do with you? Well, I am canceling my group coaching program before it begins.  My family and God come before business.  This changes how I use my time.  In order to fit it all in, I got to come up with a new business plan.  I have decided to do some personal coaching instead of group coaching.  I am very comfortable with it and can fit it in more easily than coaching a group.  I will be using my SSCFW program, only being very focused on just one client at a time.  I have enjoyed that experience and been successful with it in the past.  I will only take two clients for now.  Possibly more later.  Is this for you?

Go to the SSCFW website for a description of my coaching philosophy and program. Go to the Products page to consider my rates.  Call me at 801-225-5459 or 801-400-0109 for an appointment for a FREE half hour coaching experience.  If it is a fit for you, I would love the opportunity to coach you to coach yourself to be the woman you want to be.  If it isn’t a fit right now, we will part friends.  Do call and find out.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:
What would you like to chang in your life right now? Maybe you could reduce your stress, improve your self-care, forgive yourself or others.  Sit quietly for just five minutes and consider what you could do about it right now.  Look at it differently.  Choose one thing you will do right now to change that for the better.  Coach yourself to be your best self.  It feels so good! You can do it!  Let me know how it goes.

Thank you all for your support as I continue to be an opulent woman, rich in every way.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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There is an over-arching principle that covers all of the laws of the universe and and their application. You could call it the Law of Light.  It is so simple, I hardly dare mention it for fear you won’t take it seriously.

The Law of Light is, “The more you increase the light, the less darkness there will be in any situation or circumstance.”  See, it is truly the most simple of all the laws and yet, perhaps the least acted upon.

Who wants to live in the dark? In order to get rid of the darkness in the room, turn on the light.  It’s that simple.

I heard a story about an old farm couple decided to let a light bulb salesman show his wares.  He turned on a dim lamp and they were astonished at how it radiated beyond the flicker of their kerosene lamp.  They bought one and were happy about the things they could do in the evening in greater comfort.  A few years later another salesman approached them, surprised with their dimly lit room.  With the flick of a switch his lamp illuminated the whole room.  They willingly invested in more light.

How many times do we struggle in the dark, believing, “That’s just the way it is.  I can’t do anything about it.” When in reality you could turn the knob and receive more and more light with each turn of the switch.

This is a lesson I have learned over and over again.  If only I had stuck with my first resolution to live a healthy life-style.  If only I had never neglected my children or gotten cross with my husband.  If only I had been better with my money.  If only I hadn’t allowed myself to get depressed lately over my inability to keep up with all of the demands on my life.

I almost gave up on my business all together, just last week. Fortunately, after suffering for days and talking trash to myself, I came to my senses and realized I was surrounding myself with darkness.  I decided to turn on the light.  It’s interesting how comfortable my gloom had become and how hopeless my situation felt at the time.

It takes a fair amount of courage to reach up to that switch and turn it on. It takes effort, focus and determination, too.  Depression is all too familiar to me.  I hate it and attract it at the same time.  For someone who is suseptable to depression, the slope can be pretty slippery when I get too close.  A little exhaustion, overwork, and self pity can bring on a big bout of depression.

So what did I do to turn on the light? Writing always helps.  I can see right there in black and white how skewed my thinking has become.  A few good nights rest and good nutrition always add light.  Writing my gratitude list is helpful.  Sharing my thoughts and feelings with someone who loves me is a wise choice.

I suppose the most important thing is to realize what I have allowed myself to do and to recognize there is an unending source of light available when I turn to that Source.  The Lord never fails to answer my prayers for more light when I am willing to receive it.  You see, in the end, it is up to me to flip the switch and God brings in the light.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip: Take stock of your ‘light barometer.’  Are you enjoying as much light as you want?  If not, what can you do to switch on more light in your life.  Choose one thing and do it every day for a week.  Check your ‘light barometer’ again.  Yes, it is up to Coach “YOU”.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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“I hope to see you again soon.”

I am on vacation in Corolla, NC, on the Outer Banks of North Carolina.  My son and his wife invited me to join their family in a beautiful beach house for a few days.  I am having my dream vacation.

My daughter Becky and her two teen age sons and a friend came with me.  We woke at 5:00 a.m.  in order to watch the sun rise over the ocean.  It was spectacular.  Nothing can replicate that beautiful red ball emerging from the depths of the ocean at that early hour.  It was breathtaking.

We went back to the house and took a nap.  Can you believe that?  Well, I am on vacation, after all.  After a quick breakfast I joined them on the beach to play with darling Gracie, twenty months old, and watch the rest play in the surf.  It was a delightful morning and the weather was perfect.  Nothing could have been better–except, my dear husband was missing.  He is on a different assignment so we talk on the phone twice a day and that has to be enough for now.

It seems that no matter how we try to create our perfect day, there is often something missing. The question is, “What do we do about it?”  I could mope around and feel sorry for myself or I can take pictures and think of how Dale will enjoy my sharing them with him.  There is no perfection in this life, but there is a whole lot of love, joy and peace if we expect it and make every effort to create it. We really are in charge of our perceptions and our experiences.  I choose to believe I am having a perfect day with many more to follow.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:

What three things are needed for you to have your perfect day? Put them into place for you today.  Maybe you need someone to love, something important to do and peace of mind.   Carve out at least a few minutes in your day to have those things present today and then do it again tomorrow.  You will be surprised how close each day will become to perfection–your own definition of perfection.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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“I hope to see you again soon.”

We went to Hawaii with my son, his wife and three children a couple of years ago.  After spending a fun day on the beach, Ryan age three, said his evening prayers as follows, “Thank you that Uncle Marnie died so we could come on this fun vacation to Hawaii.” You see, his great uncle Marnie had died a couple of months earlier and his dad inherited some money which made the trip possible.  Of course, we all missed Uncle Marnie, but right then Ryan was grateful for his vacation.  In fact, we all were.

I watched a video today about the life of Michael Jordan Segal, who defied all odds after being shot in the head as a young medical student. Today he is a husband, father, social worker, freelance author and inspirational speaker.

His four year old daughter talked him into going to an amusement park on a very hot sticky day.  They waited in line 45 minutes for the first ride.  As the attendant buckled them in, he said, “I could tell by the way you walked that you are disabled.  We have a policy that if you are disabled you can go to the front of the line.”  His daughter got very excited and said, “Daddy, thank goodness you got shot.”

Every misfortune carries with it an equal and opposite fortune. We just have to look for it.  Recently two of my favorite people said some things that hurt me deeply until I thought of the treasure that came with it.  They gave me the opportunity to become very clear about my life and what I believe about myself.  I am grateful.

Opportunities like these don’t usually come to us by conscious choice. Mr. Segal said that his daughter taught him something important that day.  She taught him to always look for the positive in ANY situation.  Some times it takes a bit of searching, but there is always something good to be had when we do.  We may have to dig through the pain and do some forgiving before it becomes apparent, but it is worth the dig to find the treasure.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:

Think of some of your most difficult problems–pick three.  Go digging for the hidden treasures.  Think about it.  Write about it.  Be grateful.  Gratitude is the fuel of all that is good in life.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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I’m going to be around for a long time and I hope you will, too.

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“I hope to see you again soon.”

There are times when I just don’t know what to think. I had a ‘twenty-four hour bug’ this week and I thought, “What do healthy, happy people think when they are sick?”  I believe in the Law of Attraction so I didn’t want to feel sorry for myself for missed appointments and regret the unfinished projects.  What else could I think?

A friend shared that she had been struggling with deep feelings of inadequacy and self-blame because of her pending divorce.  She has been working with me at SimpleSelfCoachingForWomen so she knew she didn’t want to attract any more darkness into her life either.  What did she do?

Because of her new understanding of Universal Laws of Thought, she allowed herself to go deep into her feelings and experience the grief of the losses of the past instead of trying to stuff them as she had in the past.  She cried herself to sleep. The next morning she was able to pull out her new tools of thought and healing.  She coached herself by dumping her garbage, limiting beliefs and self-blame by using prayer, EFT, TAT, and affirmations to lift her spirits.  In just a few hours she knew what to think again. She recognized her divine nature and loved herself right where she was.  She was renewed!

My ‘twenty-four hour bug’ gave me the reprieve I needed to get some much needed rest, to relax and flow with life without blame or remorse.  Everything was waiting for me the next day and I felt better.

It takes courage and conscious effort to change your thinking and believe in yourself again, especially in crisis.  However, that is when it is needed most.

Here are some items for your tool box so you can be better prepared when you need them.

1. Write ten affirmations about yourself that are true, but not usually acknowledged so you can read them when you are discouraged.   (I am confident, courageous, deserving, healthy, smart, loving–whatever you want.)
2. Call a friend who believes in you and ask her to help you see what’s good about life.
3. Write everything negative about the situation, and burn it.  Write the opposite and read it often.

“An ounce of prevention is worth  pound of cure.”  Have your tool kit handy so you will always know what to think.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:

Write those ten affirmations now and put them where they are handy.  Post them on your bathroom mirror so you can read them every morning.  Share them with your friend so she can read them back to you when you call.  Love your life!!

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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I’m going to be around for a long time and I hope you will, too.

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“I hope to see you again soon.”

Can you believe it?  It is the last day of April and there is snow on my emerging apple blossoms.  I love this time of year.  Everyone’s grass is green.  Mother Nature doesn’t discriminate. We are all blessed by the longer days, increasing temperatures and April showers, that is, until it snows.  Then I wonder; is this really what I want?  No matter; I don’t get to vote.

There are some things in life that we don’t get to vote on, but we always have control over what we think about the circumstances of our lives and the feelings that follow.

My friend June, tripped in her driveway while carrying a large bowl of freshly washed strawberries to her car.  She screamed in agony and her husband came to her rescue.  After a short visit at the emergency room, she was told to stay off her feet, wrap her knee and come back in a couple of days for xrays when the swelling was down.  By the way, they gathered up the strawberries, washed them again and made jam.

Her daughter Karen, took her to the doctor appointment and sat with her while the doctor  explained that she had broken her tibia. Karen was fascinated with the xrays because she is in training to become an xray tech.  When June told him about Karen’s education he got excited and said they were needing just such a person in their office.  He asked her to come in for an interview. Karen was very excited.  She called her father and said, “Dad I am so happy Mom broke her knee so I could get a job.” Do you think she was really happy about her mother’s fall, pain and weeks of rehabilitation?  I don’t think so.  She was simply looking at it from a different perspective.

We can do the same thing under any circumstance.  Some people see the cup half empty.  To me, the cup is always over one half full.  I love my life and the challenges it brings. I am grateful for the snow on the apple blossoms.  It will be melted before noon.  There is a risk, this time of year, that it might freeze, however.  Then I would have to find something else to be grateful for–like the fact I wouldn’t have to pick up the apples that fall before we mow the lawn.  There is always a bright side to life.  Look for it.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:

Think of three circumstances you don’t like in your life right now and look at them differently.  Take a deep breath and hold the new perspective with greater peace.  It works.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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I’m going to be around for a long time and I hope you will, too.

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FREE “A Handbook For Women–Celebrate Your Strengths And Live Your Highest Purpose.”

“I hope to see you again soon.”

Being a transition coach keeps me thinking about how people change their circumstances by changing their thinking.  I believe it all happens based on divine law, the thinking laws of the universe.  If we don’t change how we think, we will keep getting what we have always gotten–and most of the time we do.

If that is true, it would seem important to be really sure of what we think about.  That could drive a person crazy, couldn’t it?  I mean, thinking of every thought could keep us from ever getting anything else done.

The law is that “What you focus on increases.” It is stated in many different ways.  What goes around comes around.  What you resist persists.  You attract what you think about.  Be careful what you wish for, you just may get it.

It isn’t so much about getting rid every limiting belief, but rather, increasing the frequency and amplitude of the thoughts that are most important to you–and paying attention to the details.

Recently my daughter’s family of seven needed a larger home.  She home schools her five children and her husband raises organic produce.  They needed a place away from the farm where Amy could nurture her children’s growth in greater comfort and convenience.

I asked her what she wanted. As most people do, she started telling me what she didn’t want.  Then she began to think about and write down what she wanted in a home:

Close to the farm.

Plenty of storage

Large rooms

Plenty of light

Two car garage

Basement

Fenced yard with play equipment and mature trees

She really wanted built in bookcases so she wrote that down, though she said she wasn’t so sure it would happen since not many homes have them any more.

Sure enough, within ten days of writing it down and just at the point where she was willing to settle for something less, they found a house with everything she had written down including built in bookcases. The house is at least 4,000 sq. ft. and even has a sunny studio apartment in the basement.  Now she is busy manifesting, Maria, her live in nanny.

The only thing she wishes she had added to her list is that it was freshly painted.  The house shows the wear and tear of previous owners so they have a lot of painting to do before they are completely satisfied.

Next time, she will include all the details of what she wants, including fresh paint.  What details have you left out of your list of desires?  Check it out and add the little things that mean a lot.  The laws work.

I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!

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I’m going to be around for a long time and I hope you will, too.

Go to my website http://www.womenlovinglifeworldwide.com and receive “A Handbook For Women—Celebrate Your Strengths And Live Your Highest Purpose”.  I hope to see you soon.