There are times when I just don’t know what to think. I had a ‘twenty-four hour bug’ this week and I thought, “What do healthy, happy people think when they are sick?”  I believe in the Law of Attraction so I didn’t want to feel sorry for myself for missed appointments and regret the unfinished projects.  What else could I think?

A friend shared that she had been struggling with deep feelings of inadequacy and self-blame because of her pending divorce.  She has been working with me at SimpleSelfCoachingForWomen so she knew she didn’t want to attract any more darkness into her life either.  What did she do?

Because of her new understanding of Universal Laws of Thought, she allowed herself to go deep into her feelings and experience the grief of the losses of the past instead of trying to stuff them as she had in the past.  She cried herself to sleep. The next morning she was able to pull out her new tools of thought and healing.  She coached herself by dumping her garbage, limiting beliefs and self-blame by using prayer, EFT, TAT, and affirmations to lift her spirits.  In just a few hours she knew what to think again. She recognized her divine nature and loved herself right where she was.  She was renewed!

My ‘twenty-four hour bug’ gave me the reprieve I needed to get some much needed rest, to relax and flow with life without blame or remorse.  Everything was waiting for me the next day and I felt better.

It takes courage and conscious effort to change your thinking and believe in yourself again, especially in crisis.  However, that is when it is needed most.

Here are some items for your tool box so you can be better prepared when you need them.

1. Write ten affirmations about yourself that are true, but not usually acknowledged so you can read them when you are discouraged.   (I am confident, courageous, deserving, healthy, smart, loving–whatever you want.)
2. Call a friend who believes in you and ask her to help you see what’s good about life.
3. Write everything negative about the situation, and burn it.  Write the opposite and read it often.

“An ounce of prevention is worth  pound of cure.”  Have your tool kit handy so you will always know what to think.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:

Write those ten affirmations now and put them where they are handy.  Post them on your bathroom mirror so you can read them every morning.  Share them with your friend so she can read them back to you when you call.  Love your life!!

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

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I’m going to be around for a long time and I hope you will, too.

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“I hope to see you again soon.”

Can you believe it?  It is the last day of April and there is snow on my emerging apple blossoms.  I love this time of year.  Everyone’s grass is green.  Mother Nature doesn’t discriminate. We are all blessed by the longer days, increasing temperatures and April showers, that is, until it snows.  Then I wonder; is this really what I want?  No matter; I don’t get to vote.

There are some things in life that we don’t get to vote on, but we always have control over what we think about the circumstances of our lives and the feelings that follow.

My friend June, tripped in her driveway while carrying a large bowl of freshly washed strawberries to her car.  She screamed in agony and her husband came to her rescue.  After a short visit at the emergency room, she was told to stay off her feet, wrap her knee and come back in a couple of days for xrays when the swelling was down.  By the way, they gathered up the strawberries, washed them again and made jam.

Her daughter Karen, took her to the doctor appointment and sat with her while the doctor  explained that she had broken her tibia. Karen was fascinated with the xrays because she is in training to become an xray tech.  When June told him about Karen’s education he got excited and said they were needing just such a person in their office.  He asked her to come in for an interview. Karen was very excited.  She called her father and said, “Dad I am so happy Mom broke her knee so I could get a job.” Do you think she was really happy about her mother’s fall, pain and weeks of rehabilitation?  I don’t think so.  She was simply looking at it from a different perspective.

We can do the same thing under any circumstance.  Some people see the cup half empty.  To me, the cup is always over one half full.  I love my life and the challenges it brings. I am grateful for the snow on the apple blossoms.  It will be melted before noon.  There is a risk, this time of year, that it might freeze, however.  Then I would have to find something else to be grateful for–like the fact I wouldn’t have to pick up the apples that fall before we mow the lawn.  There is always a bright side to life.  Look for it.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:

Think of three circumstances you don’t like in your life right now and look at them differently.  Take a deep breath and hold the new perspective with greater peace.  It works.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

Check out “About Renae” above and leave a comment below.  Let’s get acquainted.
I’m going to be around for a long time and I hope you will, too.

Go to my website http://www.womenlovinglifeworldwide.com and receive
FREE “A Handbook For Women–Celebrate Your Strengths And Live Your Highest Purpose.”

“I hope to see you again soon.”

Last week I attended the first Light The World: Birthing Your Destiny Retreat for Christian Women in Zion’s National Park.  I wasn’t sure what to expect since there were no graduates, only loving and powerful mentors with a vision.

Do you ever rely on someone else’s vision and promise just because of who they are? I know we aren’t supposed to rely on the arm of flesh, but if your mentor is relying on the arm of God, I think it is appropriate to rely upon their word to start with.  I relied upon the word of four powerful, brilliant and spiritual women, Marnie Pehrson, Judy Hansen, Lisa Rae Preston and Jamie Bartschi.  They each shared their core passions for business, music, nature, and spiritual growth as well as joyful living.

We were each encouraged and supported to fulfill our own destiny based on our core passion.  We laughed, we cried, we puzzled, we learned, we saw greatness in each other and in ourselves. We were humbled by what we saw and experienced.  It was a bit of heaven on earth. We each came home with a small transparent stone to remind us of what we are going to do to Light The World.

Does the world need more Light? Yes, I heard your resounding reply.  Where is it to be found?  In heaven?  Probably, but it is also found within you.  Within each of us is a touch of the Divine. We are children of God so it cannot be otherwise.  Have you denied your Light?  Have you covered it up with false beliefs, thinking it is all gone?  Here’s the good news.  You cannot destroy this Light.  It is who you are at your core.  You only have two choices:

*Deny it, neglect it and live in the dark.

*Dust it off and SHINE!

Of course, there are lots of variations between those two choices, but you are the one who chooses.  When you think of the dark, you create darkness in your life.  When you think of light, you create light.  It really is that simple and you can flip the switch any time.

There is an old Sunday School song that goes something like this.

This little light of mine
I’m gonna let it shine
Down in my heart
I’m gonna let it shine
Ain’t gonna make it shine
Just gonna let it shine.
Let it shine, let it shine, let it shine.

This world is in a heap of hurt, but according to divine law, there is more light than darkness. Give yourself permission to let your light shine more brightly than ever before.  The world needs your light.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:
Choose something specific to do to let your light shine and write it down now.  A written goal is much more apt to be realized.  Suggestions might be to call someone you care about and tell them you are thinking of them.  Greet your child or spouse with warmth and affection.  There, now make your own list. You know what it takes to make you smile and let your light shine.  I have confidence in you.  We are lighting the world together.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

Check out “About Renae” above and leave a comment below.  Let’s get acquainted.
I’m going to be around for a long time and I hope you will, too.

Go to my website http://www.womenlovinglifeworldwide.com and receive
FREE “A Handbook For Women–Celebrate Your Strengths And Live Your Highest Purpose.”

“I hope to see you again soon.”

You have things to do that nobody else can do. Wait!  You don’t think so?  You are sick and tired of the rat race and nobody cares?  Who has time to dream?

Whoa there!  Listen for a minute.  You don’t know me, but I might know you. You are a woman with important things to do.  You have dreams to fulfill.  You have many qualities you aren’t even aware of.  All those qualities and your experiences make up the unique woman you are.

I have had lots of experience coaching women.  This is what I know about women.

• You have an unfulfilled dream.
• You deserve to be treated with respect.
• You want a circle of true friends.
• You want to be part of a happy family.
• You want to laugh and be happy.
• There is a little girl inside of you who wants to be loved.
• You deserve money to spend any way you want.
• You want to contribute to the world in a way that matters.

Does this remind you of you? Every point contains a bit of who you are.  Of course, there is more.

What if you could see these desires fulfilled by living Universal Laws?  It is possible and you can learn to do it.  Here is how my dream started.

As a little girl my mother encouraged me to recite a poem on stage at the church talent show.  She helped me memorize “At Breakfast Time” by Edgar A. Guest.  She taught me to speak loudly, hold my head up and face the audience.  I was able to do it just that way.  I even won a quarter.  My little heart nearly popped out of my Sunday dress.

That was a defining moment for me.  At a very young age,

I realized that I could do hard things if  I really wanted to.

I am not your mom, but I have created a place where you can go for inspiration and support. I created Women Loving Life Worldwide for women just like you; women who have something more to do–to be better at something or try something new.  We are here to encourage you and help you accomplish your dreams, big or small.  You will even find other women cheering you on.

Self-Coaching Tip:

Ponder about the first item on the list above.  Answer the question, “What is one of my unfulfilled dreams?” Play with it; dream about it; write it down and come back here for more encouragement and ‘how to.’  You deserve it.

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

Check out “About Renae” above and leave a comment below.  Let’s get acquainted.

I’m going to be around for a long time and I hope you will, too.

Go to my website http://www.womenlovinglifeworldwide.com and receive

FREE “A Handbook For Women–Celebrate Your Strengths And Live Your Highest Purpose.”

I hope to see you soon.

Have you ever said, “When I grow up, I want to be like______, someone you thought was smarter, prettier, more gifted than you?  I was talking with a friend the other day who had just experienced a great big AHA!  She has been learning and applying the principles of Simple Self-Coaching and realized at a very deep level that when she grows up she wants to be like herself.  Imagine that!  She is discovering her divine potential and gifts.  With that combination, she has everything she needs to be happy.

What do I mean?  Of course, none of us is right where we want to be, but when you learn the Universal Laws and apply them consciously in your life, everything changes.  You begin to realize your divine worth.  You know you have gifts and talents you haven’t recognized and used yet.  You know how to receive the guidance and assistance you need to be successful at anything you want.

It all sounds pretty grand, doesn’t it?  Well, it really is, but you need to take it a step at a time.  Everyone who is hearing this message is at a different spot along that path.  You may be saying, “I know that.  What else do you have to offer?”  Or you may be saying, “Are you kidding?  I have failed so many times, I don’t even know where to start.  I am nobody.”  In either case and anywhere in between, the place to begin is to learn to love and coach yourself.

I am not going to give you a lecture about managing your time better or working harder.  All I want you to do is to value who you are right now. When you acknowledge the profound worth of your own soul, your confidence will increase and you will change inside.  You will think new thoughts, do more of what you want, and be the woman you are here to be.  You are SOMEBODY, somebody very powerful and important.  Your job is to learn to use the power you have within you to be the woman you can be and do the good you want to do.  It’s really pretty simple.

Simple Self-Coaching Tip:

Every morning and at least two more times each day, stop and look yourself in the eyes in the mirror and sincerely say, “____I love you.” Yes, be sure to say your name first.  Even if it feels phony at first, do it anyway.  Promise me you will do it for three weeks.  Then let me know how it feels.  Has anything changed?

“I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!”

Check out “About Renae” above and leave a comment below.  Let’s get acquainted.

I’m going to be around for a long time and I hope you will, too.

Go to my website http://www.womenlovinglifeworldwide.com and receive

FREE “A Handbook For Women–Celebrate Your Strengths And Live Your Highest Purpose.”

I hope to see you soon.

Is there anything more attractive than the smile of a baby? They can get you to say and do silly things you would never think of doing with or for another adult.  There she is, your darling smiley little dumpling, wanting you to pick her up, give her something sweet.  Daddy turns to mush–making sounds and contortions with his face that he hasn’t made since he was the same age as his baby.

A child who is just learning to walk can spill juice and track crumbs across the floor while mom giggles and coos because baby has just taken a few steps on his own.  Even siblings who will soon become arch enemies, gather around and clap for joy with each new accomplishment.  What is the magic of a baby?

It is hard to describe, isn’t it?  There is just something so attractive about them at times.  They are so full of energy.  That’s it!  They are so attractive because of the energy they send out.  They can’t help it.  It’s a magnetic force.

It is The Law of Attraction at work. We can’t see it, but it’s real.  When they feel good they send out lots of positive energy and it is contagious.  When they feel bad they send out lots of negative energy and that is contagious, too.  However, we are the adults, so we manage to control how we feel in order to take good care of them, knowing that when their needs are met, the smiles will return.

What if you thought of your true self as that little baby who needs your special care? When you are at your best you are almost as engaging as that charming cherub.  You have an attractive glow that brings light into every room and draws people to you.  That same energy is contagious to everyone within your influence.  People do things for you they would never otherwise do.

When you are grouchy or resentful, check your energy. You are always attracting either positive or negative people, circumstances and things into your life.  You have the choice.  It’s your job to take good care of your true self. It may take only a glass of water and a deep breath, but do something nurturing and she will respond.  Keep her happy and you will be astonished at how your world responds to you.

You can coach yourself to nurture your true self.  I have some simple and fun ideas to help you do that.  Stay tuned.

I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!

Check out “About Renae” above and leave a comment below.  Let’s get acquainted.  I’m going to be around for a long time and I hope you will, too.

Go to my website http://www.womenlovinglifeworldwide.com and receive FREE, “A Handbook For Women—Celebrate Your Strengths And Live Your Highest Purpose”.  I hope to see you soon.

Why is it there is no question about the process of harvesting potaotes and yet the process of harvesting our dreams seems so vague? The law of the harvest works just the same for potatoes and for dreams.

I grew up on a potato farm in southern Idaho.  I know the process; buy the seed potatoes, cut them into chunks with at least one eye in each chunk, plant them in the newly plowed and fertilized (with cow manure) rich brown earth, water on schedule, weed as necessary and watch them grow to maturity.

When the little white flowers appear on the top of the beautiful leafy green plants you know there are little potatoes beginning to grow in all directions under that plant.  Finally, you quit watering and the weather gets cooler.  Before long there is a cold frost that kills the vines.  They fall over dead and it looks like the whole summer’s work has gone to waste.

But no, the digger comes along and unearths the harvest of beautiful potatoes just like the chunk of the one you placed in the soil in the springtime, only much larger.  You haul them on huge trucks to the cellar or to the market to make French fries and tater tots, which was your plan in the beginning.  No, for me it would be a beautiful flaky baked Idaho russet for dinner, slathered in butter and sour cream.  That’s what I expected at the end of the summer.

Do you give that much care to harvest your desires and dreams? It takes a lot of commitment and focus to harvest the things that are really important to you.  Just look around you and see what those things are.  What have you focused on?  What have you gotten?   It depends on what seeds you planted.

The answers will be both pleasing and disappointing.  Of course, you have done some things you wanted to do.  The question is, what have you left undone.  No, the real question is what will you do about it now?  It’s never too late.  At age seventy, I am taking piano lessons.  I love it and plan to keep on forever.  Why not?  It was a dream and now it is a dream coming true.

Your dreams start with seeds that have just as much potential for growth and harvest as the seed potatoes do. There were pioneers who were starving, but they kept their seed potatoes and planted them with the promise of a bounteous harvest.  Your dreams and ambitions give you a moment of joy just thinking about them, but that isn’t enough.  Grab hold of that dream seed, thrust it into the soil of your soul and begin to water, weed, wait and harvest your dreams.

Yum!  That big Idaho baked potato is much more delicious than eating the little seed potato and letting that be the end of it.  When you harvest your dreams, you will have more seeds to plant and more dreams to realize and the harvest goes on, even for generations.  It is up to you.  What will your harvest be?

I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!

Check out “About Renae” above and leave a comment below.  Let’s get acquainted.  I’m going to be around for a long time and I hope you will, too.

Go to my website http://www.womenlovinglifeworldwide.com and receive FREE, “A Handbook For Women—Celebrate Your Strengths And Live Your Highest Purpose”.  I hope to see you soon.

Being a transition coach keeps me thinking about how people change their circumstances by changing their thinking.  I believe it all happens based on divine law, the thinking laws of the universe.  If we don’t change how we think, we will keep getting what we have always gotten–and most of the time we do.

If that is true, it would seem important to be really sure of what we think about.  That could drive a person crazy, couldn’t it?  I mean, thinking of every thought could keep us from ever getting anything else done.

The law is that “What you focus on increases.” It is stated in many different ways.  What goes around comes around.  What you resist persists.  You attract what you think about.  Be careful what you wish for, you just may get it.

It isn’t so much about getting rid every limiting belief, but rather, increasing the frequency and amplitude of the thoughts that are most important to you–and paying attention to the details.

Recently my daughter’s family of seven needed a larger home.  She home schools her five children and her husband raises organic produce.  They needed a place away from the farm where Amy could nurture her children’s growth in greater comfort and convenience.

I asked her what she wanted. As most people do, she started telling me what she didn’t want.  Then she began to think about and write down what she wanted in a home:

Close to the farm.

Plenty of storage

Large rooms

Plenty of light

Two car garage

Basement

Fenced yard with play equipment and mature trees

She really wanted built in bookcases so she wrote that down, though she said she wasn’t so sure it would happen since not many homes have them any more.

Sure enough, within ten days of writing it down and just at the point where she was willing to settle for something less, they found a house with everything she had written down including built in bookcases. The house is at least 4,000 sq. ft. and even has a sunny studio apartment in the basement.  Now she is busy manifesting, Maria, her live in nanny.

The only thing she wishes she had added to her list is that it was freshly painted.  The house shows the wear and tear of previous owners so they have a lot of painting to do before they are completely satisfied.

Next time, she will include all the details of what she wants, including fresh paint.  What details have you left out of your list of desires?  Check it out and add the little things that mean a lot.  The laws work.

I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!

Check out “About Renae” above and leave a comment below.  Let’s get acquainted.

I’m going to be around for a long time and I hope you will, too.

Go to my website http://www.womenlovinglifeworldwide.com and receive “A Handbook For Women—Celebrate Your Strengths And Live Your Highest Purpose”.  I hope to see you soon.

All I needed to do was fertilize my garden and it would be ready for peas. I looked around for the rake to smooth the soil out.  Being the creative woman I am, I thought, “This soil is so fluffy and nice, I think a broom would work better.”  Yes, I got my kitchen broom and swept the soil smooth.  It looked great.  Now for the fertilizer.

I sprinkled it on.  Then I prayed for rain.  I got snow.  Yes, can you believe it?  Snow on April 1!  I guess that’s appropriate for April Fools Day!  It was the best way to soak in the fertilizer in preparation for spring planting over the next six weeks.  The snow is melting as we speak.  I feel joyful and grateful.

As a transition coach, I find many people aren’t willing to put that much forethought and work into preparing the mind and heart for the seeds they want to plant. We want a great harvest, don’t we?  We want a healthy body, happy relationships and positive cash flow.  Are we willing to try something new in our routine in order to make it happen–something like sweeping your soil?  Think about it.  You’ve tried all the diets, therapies, and budgets.  Get creative and put a new spin on your preparation to receive what you want.

Here are three suggestions that might help.

1. Just before you go to sleep tell yourself how well everything went today.  Pick out everything positive and dwell on it for a minute.  Forget the negative.

2. If you can’t come up with enough to make you smile, make it up.  Rerun your day the way you wish it had gone and dwell on that.  Go to sleep with a smile on your face.

3. Before you get out of bed in the morning, keep your eyes closed and think of your day as a movie preview, hitting all the highlights just the way you want them to be.  Stretch, smile and say out loud, “This is my best day so far!” and mean it.

Now, get creative and come up with some of your own ideas.  You are on your way to a bounteous harvest!

I love my life!  I hope you love your life, too!

Check out “About Renae” above and leave a comment below.  Let’s get acquainted.  I’m going to be around for a long time and hope you will, too.

Go to my website http://www.womenlovinglifeworldwide.com and receive “A Handbook For Women—Celebrate Your Strengths And Live Your Highest Purpose”.  I hope to see you soon.