Are you the woman everyone wants as their best friend? Maybe you are the one to bring everyone together for family celebrations. People say ‘hi’ to you on the street. They remember your name because of the touching presentation you made at the PTA meeting. Everyone wants your company and advice and you enjoy giving both. You like to contribute and make others feel good. Remember when you made your sales team laugh instead of cry when things weren’t perfect. You were the one to give them hope and a new perspective. Are the peacemaker in the family?
Have you ever wished you had a friend like you? I have. Maybe I should be above thinking like this, but there have been times in my life when I just kept going the extra mile until I felt like I was at the end of my road and nobody was there to hold out their hand to me or give me a pat on the back.
As a young mother, I remember taking care of my children while helping a sick neighbor and wishing with all my heart that my own mother was there to put me to bed and take over. She lived several hundred miles away so I had to learn to do it all myself. Or did I? Was there another possibility I wasn’t even aware of?
Was it possible for me give myself the same kind of tender loving care I was giving my family, friends and even strangers? It is so easy to look back and wish things had been different and yet, I wouldn’t change a thing. I learned so much the hard way. Nevertheless, I want to make things easier for you.
Why would you be a good candidate for best friend? You know where you have been, what you have done, where you want to go and what you want to do. Who knows more about YOU than You do? Nobody? Who could have more empathy for your position, compassion for your past, and more enthusiasm for your future than you do? Consider this for a minute.
First thing in the morning, look yourself in the mirror and say, “I love you just the way you are. I really mean it.” Every time you pass the mirror, look yourself in the eye and say it again. Be sure to make eye contact. You may feel like you’re lying at first, but stick with it for a week and see if you see your best friend looking back at you It is worth a try.
Buy yourself a special journal just for writing down what you like about yourself. You can be as extravagant as you wish, but for sure write three things a day. I like the way I answered the phone. That was really nice of me to help Sally with her homework. I held my tongue when I felt like gossiping today. Way to go, ME. Are those things you might notice in your best friend? Could you think of ways to appreciate and notice them more? What if you did that for yourself on a regular basis.
I like the quote by Dr. Seuss, “Be yourself. Everything else is taken.” The good news is that that is the best news ever. There is nobody around who can be a better friend to you than you. Love that girl and help her do what you have always dreamed your best friend would do for you.
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